It's
no secret that breastfeeding provides both a mother and her baby with numerous
physical and emotional health benefits.
Unfortunately,
some new moms who have every intention of nursing their babies end up switching
to formula within the first few weeks of their babies' lives.
Based on data
collected in 2000 and 2001, 32 percent of women chose not to breast feed at all
4 percent started
breastfeeding, but stopped within the first week
13
percent stopped breastfeeding within the first month
51
percent continued breastfeeding for greater than 4 weeks
Younger
women with lower than average socioeconomic status were most likely to stop breastfeeding
within the first month
Reasons
for stopping with breastfeeding included:
Sore
nipples
Inadequate
milk supply
Infant
having difficulties
The
perception that the infant was not getting enough milk
Based
on my own personal experience with breastfeeding as well as the experiences of
other moms who I have talked with over the past year, it's clear that all first
time moms can benefit from learning about what to expect with breastfeeding, particularly
in the first month. Knowing what to expect can provide first time moms with confidence
and assurance that can lead to a healthy breastfeeding experience.
Here
are some pointers about breastfeeding that I wish I had known about before my
baby arrived:
Breastfeeding
can be hard and stressful. Most books and breastfeeding support groups tend to
emphasize how wonderful breastfeeding is and how good it is for the development
of a healthy bond between mom and baby. A lack of awareness of how hard and stressful
breastfeeding might be at times can leave many women feeling like they are the
only ones dealing with a stressful breastfeeding situation. The reality is that
many mothers find it difficult.
Part
of the stress of breastfeeding can come from having painful nipples. La Leche
League and lactation consultants tend to say that breastfeeding should not be
painful. I would agree, but would add that this may not be true during the first
week or so of breastfeeding. While breastfeeding, the nipples get stretched so
that they reach the back of the baby's palate - close to the throat. In the first
weeks of life, the baby is constantly nursing to bring up mom's breast milk supply.
Constant nursing plus the stretching that the nipples are subjected to can leave
mom's nipples extremely sore. The good news is that after about a week or two,
the nipples get used to the rigors of nursing and don't tend to get sore anymore.
If a woman continues
to experience sore nipples after a week or two of breastfeeding, the cause might
be an improper latch. Latch refers to the position of the baby's mouth, lips,
and tongue on the breast. A La Leche League leader, lactation consultant, or mid
wife can provide guidance on how to promote a good latch while breastfeeding.
Another common
source of stress can be the feeling that mom doesn't have enough or any milk in
her breasts. When a woman's milk first comes in, it can take a while for her body
to adjust to how much milk her baby needs. Until her milk supply regulates in
this manner, her breasts will feel really full at times and really empty at other
times.
The reality is that breasts are never fully empty because the
body is constantly producing milk as long as the baby is nursing. In my case,
our baby grew so fast that I felt that my breasts were often empty, which led
me to feel that my milk supply was inadequate. In actuality, my body was learning
what our baby needed. All I had to do was let our baby nurse as much as he wanted
- even if it seemed that no milk was coming out - because the more a baby nurses,
the more milk will be produced. Thankfully,
I had learned this at La Leche League meetings during my pregnancy so I was able
to persevere with breastfeeding, despite my feelings of having an inadequate milk
supply.
How
the breasts feel is not a reliable indicator of whether a woman has enough milk
or not. Neither is the amount of milk that a woman can pump out because man-made
pumps are not as efficient as babies at drawing out milk. For example, the pump
that I have doesn't work very well unless it's rinsed in water first to give the
suction mechanism more stick. Even then, it doesn't get much milk out. I currently
use my breast pump only to relieve engorgement that occurs whenever our baby's
nursing patterns change.
Another
potential source of stress for me was an overactive letdown. Letdown is when the
baby's suckling triggers a reflex that results in milk flow. The stress that first
time moms can experience with an overactive letdown is another potential feature
of the breastfeeding experience that women don't tend to tell each other about.
It's important to note that not all women experience an overactive letdown.
With our baby, my letdown was so strong that milk would literally shoot out.
He wasn't able to handle the strong surge in milk, leading to coughing and sputtering
that was heart-breaking to see. Now that I look back, I didn't even realize at
first that I had an overactive letdown. I just thought that I was doing something
wrong or that something was wrong with our baby. If I had the opportunity to do
things over again, I would have set our baby aside once my letdown was triggered,
let the milk run out, and then let our baby back on the breast once the surge
had diminished and he was able to nurse comfortably. Ultimately, our baby was
able to overcome this problem when he grew big enough to handle my letdown, which
occurred at approximately 3.5 to 4 months of age.
Some
first time moms can feel stress over wanting to get the latch just right. I wanted
our baby's mouth to look exactly the way that the baby's mouth in a La Leche guide
looked. In truth, our baby's mouth couldn't always look "perfect" because he was
trying to handle my letdown. Now that he is bigger and manages the letdown just
fine, his latch looks like the classic latch when he is nursing. But even though
we've got a good latch going, his mouth doesn't always look "perfect" - both lips
are supposed to be flanged out, but his top lip is sometimes curled in. A good
approach seems to be to let the baby latch and see how it feels. If it hurts or
is uncomfortable, then change it. Sometimes babies know how to latch correctly
right away, but sometimes they don't. Sometimes it is a learned skill.
Some women can
find it stressful when family members suggest or flat-out tell them that they
don't have enough milk. Today's generation of child-bearing women should remember
that their parents' and grandparents' generations were greatly influenced by formula
companies and many of them don't have the experience of breastfeeding for a long
time. Some of them didn't breast feed at all. The reality is that babies will
nurse a lot because they are growing all the time.
The only reliable
way to tell whether a baby is getting enough milk or not is to observe his or
her output (number and amount of pees and poos) and the baby's growth. Sometimes,
even when a baby is obviously getting enough milk, relatives may suggest that
mom doesn't have enough milk. In my case, our baby was 20 pounds at 3 months and
23 pounds at 4 months and I still heard from my relatives, "Maybe you don't have
enough milk" from time to time. Ultimately, it is very rare for a mother to have
inadequate milk supply if she is allowing her baby to nurse whenever the baby
wants. And of course, high quality milk production requires mom to eat when hungry
and to eat healthy foods.
WHAT
KEPT ME GOING WITH BREASTFEEDING:
A
supportive husband .
A
good support network - La Leche League helped a lot because I was able to call
the leader anytime.
Supportive
midwives who invited me to call anytime, day or night, during the first few weeks
of our baby's life.
Attending
La Leche League meetings while pregnant - they taught me a lot about breast milk
management before I started breastfeeding and this helped to keep me from getting
discouraged when I started breastfeeding.
Having
the mindset that formula is not an option - if there was an option that was as
good as breastfeeding, but didn't require my breasts, I would have taken it! But
since there wasn't, I had to keep going with the breastfeeding.
Being
told that I was doing a really good job (even though I felt like I wasn't). Empathy
helps a lot - for example, having someone acknowledge that I wasn't having a good
time.
As
you can see, I believe that a first time mom who really wants to breast feed her
child can never have too much support. If you are a first time or expectant mom
who is in need of breastfeeding information and support, I encourage you to visit
La Leche League's
web site and Dr. William
Sears' web site. Feel free to contact me as well by writing to margaret at
drbenkim.com - be sure to replace the "at" with an @ symbol.
I'm
currently working on a book that includes all of the steps that my husband and
I took to prepare for and experience a healthy pregnancy and delivery. This article
is an excerpt from the last section of the book, which I hope will be available
in the summer of 2006.
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