The
common wisdom is that for a diet to succeed it has to have sex appeal. That means
the air-brushed after-pictures have to show scantily clad, starry-eyed, smiling
participants or the diet has to be associated with a celebrity or a beautiful,
trendy locale like South Beach. Some diets feature body parts that are associated
with sexiness and physical prowess in the bedroom like The Abs Diet. At minimum
a diet has to be radical claiming that one or two foods eaten at specific intervals
will catapult our metabolism into overdrive and dissolve fat deposits in specific
places. In that light can a common sense, balanced diet combined with a fitness
program where we have to move-to-lose stand a chance?
There
are a few basic scenarios that motivate us to lose weight and ironically set us
up for failure: a high school reunion, a health-related warning, an affair like
a wedding or Bar Mitzvah, or the other kind of affair. Startled by the sudden
need, we pressure ourselves to lose weight rapidly and never give ourselves enough
time to prepare. The deadline increases our stress levels which cause us to eat
in the closet, or binge eat in the middle of the night after a whole day of deprivation,
creating havoc with our metabolism. Instead of exercising in daily moderation,
we become weekend warriors and come Monday morning we can hardly walk down the
stairs or get out of the car because we are in so much pain. Exercise is now forever
linked with painful memories. Ultimately, we begin to believe in the genie in
the supplement bottle and in late night infomercial exercise machines!
However,
when the realization hits that our bodies are not changing for the better and
that we are just deceiving ourselves, it is time to follow a low-fad diet. The
low-fad diet means making a commitment to sustained success and to the voice of
reason that there is no such thing as a quick fix. Here are some suggestions to
alter the mindset that is impeding you from your goals.
Are
your portions too big? You should conduct your meals the way you conduct business.
Don't grab more than a fair share.
Do
you sabotage your health by eating foods that you know are harmful? At least be
as loyal to yourself as you would be to others.
Do you eat to fill an empty, lonely heart? Don't forget to express your gratitude
and appreciation to others and so to yourself. When you appreciate yourself, you
take care of yourself.
Do
you eat when you are nervous and pressured? A balanced life is a solution to the
quest for happiness. If your weight and activity levels are out of balance, you
will not be happy. And if you are not happy, your physical health will be out
of balance.
Do
you replay worries and perceived insults or do you let them go? When people criticize
you, does it trigger eating sugary-fat or salty-fat comfort food? We all have
negative voices and good voices in our head. We have to detangle the negative,
stressful advice from the positive. It is like going to the fruit store and sorting
out the bad fruit from the good fruit. We have the ability to do it!
True
beauty is not physical, but something you develop within yourself and communicate
to others. Take the pressure off the obsessive quest for physical attractiveness.
You will feel lighter! When you ease up on unrealistic expectations, you can make
a sustained effort toward managing small goals of weight loss and fitness. Perhaps
a 10K run is overwhelming, but a 30 minute walk isn't!
Debbie Mandel,
MA is the author of Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul,
a stress-reduction specialist, motivational speaker, a personal trainer and mind/body
lecturer at Southampton College. She is the host of the weekly Turn On Your Inner
Light Show on WHLI 1100AM in New York City , produces a weekly wellness newsletter,
and has been featured on radio/ TV and print media. To learn more visit
her site.
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