Family Keep You Down:
Are Family Relationships Keeping You Locked in a Box?
by Leah Day
When you were growing up, your family had a dynamic, or a relationship forged between each member based on how you were as children.
Some people call these relationships your "pecking order." This is the layout of how all your family members treat one another. Think about your family for a moment. Chances are the way you feel about your sister and brother have more to do with who you were as kids than adults.
These family relationships get ingrained while you're a kid living within your nuclear family. When you leave home, you're of course free to change, but many people find that when you return home and get back around your family, those old dynamics tend to come out of the wood work once again.
When you leave home, change is inevitable. Within a year or two, you will certainly not be the same person you were when you left home and absolutely not the same 4 year old who stole candy from the grocery store.
It seems that the only time your family will really take notice of these changes is when you really start talking about change and success.
Many people have awkward feelings about success and riches. In our society, ambitious people can be seen as greedy, cutthroat, and selfish.
Of course, this is total nonsense. There is nothing wrong with being successful and earning more money for yourself and your family.
But by talking about being successful and starting a new venture, you might actually be undermining some of your family relationships and dynamics that you've lived with for years.
Your sister might have been the smart, A+ student back in grade school, so everyone probably assumes that she will be the most successful. When you start taking and acting like you will take this place instead, your family might not know what to think. How can they rationalize the new, successful person you are with the person you used to be?
There is also a prevailing notion started during childhood that two children can't be interested in the same thing. You may have had exceptional talent with drawing and painting, but you couldn't actively pursue this talent because your sister was the drawing / painting child.
The fact of the matter is, anyone can be successful and talented!
- Even if your sister made better grades.
- Even if your brother has a Master's degree.
- Even if you're a college dropout.
- Even if you're not supposed to be good at that skill / hobby because someone you were related to was good at it.
The biggest difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is the lack of action.
You may have a family member that could have been a famous musician. She was extremely talented playing the piano, but she's never taken action to turn that skill into a successful, money making business.
If you're willing to take action and work the necessary steps to start a successful business the you have every right to step into that place and use your talents!
Don't let your ingrained family dynamics hold you back or keep you locked in the personality box of your childhood.
Reach for success, believe in yourself, and become the person you never thought you could be!
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