Just
when you think everything is going your way, a stressor hits and destabilizes
you to challenge your balance.
For
example, a close friend doesnt invite you to a party she is giving or doesnt
spend as much time with you as you were habituated.
Perhaps,
this year you didnt go on a traveling vacation because of the expense.
Maybe
your spouse made a sharp dismissive remark which opened up some old wound.
Then
worst of all, you look in the mirror and there is no need to ask because you can
plainly see that you are not the fairest of them all! What are you going to do
to get back to center?
No
one seems to notice or care while you are self-absorbed in the predicament.
Its
time to pick yourself up and see that although you are an ordinary mortal, you
possess extraordinary powers.
Wake
up! Life is a series of recoveries.
To
recover more quickly next time start journaling today!
Keeping a record in black and white objectifies your stressor and takes the mystery
out of it. You can then view what is upsetting you from different angles to reframe
and release.
However,
you might reply that you have heard about journaling countless times as it is
a real old stress-management device which doesnt work for you. Wait, help
is on the way!
I have a new approach on recording your thoughts which is more likely to create
a relaxation response and I am excited to present it you.
When
journaling your deep thoughts, accompany each entry with a photograph, a cut-out
from a magazine, picture post card, or your own drawing or painting.
Recently
I interviewed Victoria Cass on my radio show about her book, In the Realm of the
Gods, which contains gorgeous Chinese photographs accompanying each specific regional
Chinese myth and legend. You get a multi-sensory impression of words and pictures.
While we were discussing the structure of her book, Victoria observed that American
books dont delight in the merger of words and pictures the way Chinese books
and scrolls do.
It
hit me like lightening this technique could be a great device for stress-management.
Imagine: You write it, read it and see it! Now, thats what I call a comprehensive
natural detoxification.
Heres
how it would work with one of the aforementioned stressors.
You make a journal entry expressing your hurt that you were not invited to your
close friends party.
Now
you look for an accompanying visual portrayal of what you wished would happen.
Perhaps, its an old photograph of you blowing out the candles at your birthday
party, or an art deco picture of people sipping drinks at a party.
Or
go the opposite route and select the Disney picture of the fairy who was not invited
to Sleeping Beautys party. You can select a visual which expresses your
anger or one which expresses wish fulfillment because there is no right or wrong
about your feelings.
In
any case pictures dont rationalize or lie like words. So, write and see.
Then put it away for awhile as you go on to the next journal entries using the
same method.
Revisit
later on. Do you see anything different?
About
the Author Debbie
Mandel, MA is the author of Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind
and Soul, a stress-reduction specialist, motivational speaker, a personal
trainer and mind/body lecturer at Southampton College. She is the host of the
weekly Turn On Your Inner Light Show on WHLI 1100AM in New York City ,
produces a weekly wellness newsletter, and has been featured on radio/ TV and
print media. To learn more visit
her site.
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