Three-Month Old Baby's First Trip to the Pediatrician
Refusal and Medical Intimidation
by Josh Day
our son was born at home in February of 2007, we were fortunate
enough to not endure the battery of tests, dubious administrations
like silver nitrate and the vitamin K shot, and the routine Hepatitis
B vaccine most hospitals recommend
and/or require for all newborn infants.
is our belief and nonprofessional medical opinion that the vast
majority of vaccines are little cluster bombs in a burgeoning immune
also our opinion that vaccines are potentially harmful to deadly,
especially when administered in an inoculation "cocktail"
of multiple shots. This barrage of toxic substances is not being
delivered into an adult who weighs over a hundred pounds, mind you,
but into a tiny baby less than fifteen pounds and not even four
months of age.
purpose of this article is to share our experience at our pediatrician's
office and to help parents who have decided against vaccinating
their children. Be it a medical, religious, or philosophical reason,
if you have made the choice against vaccination, you must be ready
to defend your decision during your visits to pediatricians.
note: If you are unsure about vaccination or if you are pro-vaccine,
scroll to the bottom of this page and thoughtfully examine the
links I provide.
the nurse asked us about James' vaccine schedule, we politely and
firmly told her we would not be vaccinating him. We were fortunate
as she was non-confrontational and did not push the issue. However,
one should be prepared for a hostile response because some medical
personnel may attempt to intimidate or shame you into changing your
mind. In extreme cases, some may even threaten child protection
services or go so far as to label vaccine refusal as child abuse.
are most likely idle threats, based on typical medical education
that only presents the pro-vaccine point of view.
any event, stay polite, firm, and do not back down. Do not let an
aggressive nurse engage you in an argument or discussion of the
the sitatuion gets nasty, politely tell the nurse you are done talking
and will only speak further with the doctor.
it's the doctor who won't relent and continues to mention words
like "child abuse," politely inform him/her that you need
a pediatrician you can work with, someone who respects your wishes
regarding vaccines for your child. And then leave and find
a different doctor.
most important thing to remember is that you can scoop up your baby
and leave at any time. They cannot and will not hold you against
your will. And even the most outrageous and bellicose nurse will
not attempt to inject your child against your wishes.
continue the narrative about our experience, the nurse returned
with a vaccine
refusal form for us to sign. Legally, you do not
have to sign any forms. However, chances are good that without your
signature your child will be refused treatment and you will have
to shop elsewhere for pediatric services.
you are given a form like we were, read it carefully, and read it
twice. Do not let the nurse or doctor's impatience speed you up
or have you sign prematurely. Watch out for forms that lock
your signature into a clause that states you are medically endangering
your child. If you put your name to such a statement, CPS could
have a case against you. The damning sentence posed to us read
something like "We acknowledge we are endangering our child's
life by refusing..."
fix was simple. We merely crossed out the clause. The rest of the
form was acceptable as it merely stated which vaccines we were refusing,
the benefits and risks, and that we had been informed. There is
absolutely no reason for the endangerment clause other than to intimidate,
scare, and advance the pharmaceutical industry's war effort against
informed parents who refuse to vaccinate.
things weren't quite over.
the doctor came in, she actually tried to make us sign a fresh form.
In no uncertain terms we refused. We remained polite, but we let
her know exactly why we would not sign that clause. We stated something
like, "As James' parents, we feel we would be endangering his
life by vaccinating him. We are good parents to our son and will
not sign otherwise."
remained cool and firm and eventually came to a compromise that
satisfied both parties. We scratched out the original clause and
wrote in: "We have been informed by our doctor of the risks
and benefits of vaccines." We then initialed the new clause.
are the preparations we took before we entered the doctor's office.
We had done a lot of reading and were prepared for any eventuality.
It's important for those of us who choose not to vaccinate to do
our homework so we can present our point of view unemotionally and
convincingly. Remember: the nurses and doctors have their
ducks in a row where vaccinations are concerned... do you?
and foremost, do a little research and find an open-minded doctor
who isn't vaccine-crazed. If you're new to the area, visit the
local health food store. Talk to the owner and ask about pediatricians,
and specifically mention you are anti-vaccine. If the owner does
not have children, chances are she'll know someone who does and
knows of a good doctor. Making an appointment at the pediatrician's
office without requesting a specific doctor can be a game of roulette
as you have no idea who or what kind of attitudes you'll get.
have both the mother and father present during doctor visits.
Medical personnel are much less likely to gang up on you if you're
both there. One thing I did was hold James throughout the visit.
By and large, women are deemed weaker targets on which to thrust
medical intervention, and having me hold James sent a subtle yet
powerful psychological message.
in with a one-page printed and signed statement expressing your
view on vaccination. You may even want to go so far as having
it notorized. Be sure to fully research the vaccine laws in your
area before you sign anything as one seemingly insignificant word
could be damning down the road. Legally, the written word is your
most powerful tool, and a cogent and concise statement of where
you stand regarding vaccination demonstrates your resolve as well
as the fact that you're an informed parent.
the appointment, have one parent wait in the car with the child
while the other waits in the waiting room. Even if the facility
has "sick" and "well" waiting rooms, pediatrician's
offices are swamps of germs, and each room is most likely on the
same ventilation system. Protecting your well baby from sickness
is another act of showing you are informed and a good parent.
Do not let dirty looks or rude comments cause you to bring
the baby inside before you are called.
out of your way to be polite and nice to the nurse when you first
meet her even though, ultimately, it will not be the nurse you'll
be dealing with but the doctor.
though it's important to remain polite and non-emotional, be prepared
for aggression. The night before, assign one parent to be a "good
cop" and the other the "bad cop." Good cop-bad
copping is a wonderful technique to get what you want and to avoid
being taken advantage of. Have the good cop be super nice, and
the bad cop hard-nosed.
prepared to walk out. At any time. If the doctor becomes
hostile and threatens to not "see" you, politely inform
the doctor you need a physician you can trust and who respects
your point of view and then walk out without saying another
word. Remember, it is they who are providing the service,
and you are paying dearly for it.
pediatrician is NOT necessarily your friend. Do not let a doctor
sweet-talk you or otherwise trick you into vaccinating if you've
decided against it.
sign anything that contains a clause stating you are a neglectful
parent or are "endangering" your child.
and most importantly, "Be nice." No matter what they
throw at you, be nice, even if you have to walk. You gain
nothing by getting angry, but you could lose a lot. Stay detached
Important: You do not want to miss reading my
review of Vaccine Legal Exemptions, a legal guide
which I consider to be the informed, non-vaccinating parent's Bible
to vaccine laws.
I recommend a video
on vaccine dangers featuring medical doctors who share their
is an incredible article about breaking
down the myths of the vaccine era. This is a great place to
one mother's story, dating back to the late 1970s: In
the Wake of Vaccines.
further vaccine reading, check out my article on thimerosal
and autism, as well as a disturbing June 2007 Robert Kennedy
commentary (with hundreds of intelligent comments from readers
whose lives have been impacted by vaccine-related issues).
a Twisted Tale of Virus and Thimerosal
At the above link you'll find an important PDF article
discussing autism, thimerosal, and possible genetic and bacterial
predispositions to vaccine reactions.
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