As many of you know, the Centerpointe program can generate
mental and emotional upheaval. Upheaval is a manifestation of resistance in response
to the surfacing of unresolved mental and emotional material. One of the common
pieces of advice we give to Participants attempting to confront these challenging
thoughts and feelings is to adopt the standpoint of the Witness. Don't attach
yourself to these sensations. Just become the watcher of your feelings and observe
the sensations of your thoughts.
This is easier said than done.
Our identity is very closely associated with our thoughts
and feelings. Usually, when we feel anger, we become angry. We are anger itself.
When we feel depressed, we are depression. When we feel greedy we are greed. It's
easy to see ourselves in the emotional "guise du jour" and mistake this
costume for who we really are beneath it.
There
is a step, or a switch that happens between that moment of feeling a sensation
and becoming identified with the sensation. That switch happens automatically
most of the time. We aren't aware of the switch, it just happens without us consciously
doing it. We cross this line between feeling and being dozens of times each day
without ever considering that space between. Being the Witness means seeing that
line and noticing the switch from what we feel to what we are need not be so
automatic. Through Witnessing we can actually see the switch happen.
Meditation is, in part, a process of locating the inner
Witness; that aspect of our awareness that is capable of stepping into that moment
between the arising of the feeling, and our identification with it. As our awareness
becomes focused within the Witness, we begin to see elements of our emotional
and mental functioning at work. We are Witnesses to a series of processes that
do more than just create an impact in the moment, but actually determine much
of how we have lived our lives to this point.
Our beliefs, decisions, opinions, emotional state, are
all shaped largely by what we might call the "Reactor." The Reactor
resides at the other end of the spectrum from the Witness. As the Witness observes,
the Reactor (surprise, surprise) reacts.
We are conditioned to be reactionary, partly because
our culture demands that we react quickly to the ever-changing circumstances of
our environment. We often have to think fast, and act fast to survive and prosper.
He who hesitates is lost. So we make decisions "on the fly" as we cruise
through our hectic day. Sometimes it's important to be able to do this. You must
trust your intuition and your reflexes. If you suddenly notice that a fire has
broken out in your home, you must act quickly to get to safety. There won't be
time to sit and think things through. The Reactor can save our lives.
But when it comes to our emotions, attitudes, and beliefs,
living as the Reactor has its consequences. We can damage our relationships with
others, sabotage our efforts to succeed and thrive, thereby perpetrating destructive,
dysfunctional cycles of behavior and belief. Being reactionary becomes habitual
with very little reinforcement. When in Witness mode, we can see these cycles
at work, and learn new ways of functioning outside of them.
For centuries, meditators have sought to tap into the
Witness, to learn from it, to inhabit it as a means of gaining insight and deeper
information about themselves and the world around them. Of course, when one sets
out to do this, the first thing they notice is just how reactionary they have
become.
Here's part of a letter we received from a Centerpointe
program Participant illustrating this point:
"Sometime around the 12th week I started seeing
myself as tho I were watching a movie. I could see me talking and acting in ways
I couldn't believe...The way I treated people at work was really amazing! I had
been called in to talk to my boss twice last year because she felt I was not acting
as a team player. I ignored her and thought she was picking on me. But now I see
it! I hate to say it but she was right. I've been tripping myself and other people
all my life. Until I could really watch myself as an observer I never knew the
kinds of things I have been doing to myself and other people. Now I know and now
I am able to change it."
By being the Witness we empower ourselves to function
at a much higher level than when we are the Reactor. The chief benefit to perfecting
this Witnessing stance is that we can be responsive rather than reactionary. We
open ourselves to a new world of opportunity and see a vast array of choices we
can make about how we respond to people and circumstances in our environment.
We see connections and patterns in our lives that emerge as we mindfully Witness.
And for the first time, we awaken to the fact that we truly do create our own
realities by our thoughts and feelings.
But where is this elusive Witness? Some mystics believe
the Witness can be activated by focusing our attention on the so-called "Third
Eye." This is the region between the eyebrows, and slightly higher on the
forehead. This area also corresponds to the pineal gland.
In Hindu literature Shiva said to "focus attention
between eyebrows and let mind be before thought." The Greek scientist and
mystic Pythagoras also held this point to be meaningful in cultivating inner awareness,
the so-called "Eye of Wisdom." And Rene Descartes viewed the pineal
gland as the "master cell" of the brain -- the "seat of the soul"
-- because of its apparent role as a bridge between emotion and action. Some scientists
believe that the pineal gland is a magneto receptor, capable of sensing magnetic
fields, and helping to align the body in space.
Other thinkers believe that the Witness is associated
with the Heart Chakra (Anahata). Some associate this region with the other major
endocrine gland in the head, the pituitary. From the Heart Chakra comes love,
compassion, deeper understanding. When our awareness is directed from this region,
we find that our normal cause-and-effect reactions are replaced with something
more powerful in terms of our unconditional acceptance of whatever is happening.
Witnessing from the heart chakra compels us to become accepting of ourselves and
of others as our perception is less critical and tempered by love and compassion.
The issue of whether there is a physical location for
the Witness may be best left to the mystics and scientists to determine. We can
still develop our ability to become this Witness, and to gain enormous insight
into the mechanics of our mental and emotional self.
Adopting the Witness perspective will bring you into
direct contact with your thoughts. This might not sound very interesting. After
all, aren't we always in direct contact with our thoughts? No. As a matter of
fact, most of our thoughts are generated in the same reactionary way as our emotions.
We really don't have any contact with our thoughts until they have arisen in our
conscious awareness, and are often on their way out in the form of some kind of
word or action. Sometimes we may even have thoughts that catch us off guard. They
can be unpredictable. We might say, "Hey! Where did THAT thought come from?"
To some, it's unsettling to know that they can be ambushed by their own thoughts.
But this is what happens when we are not being a Witness to our thoughts. And
within this process, our thoughts and feelings at any given moment can replace
our sense of self.
What we so often fail to realize is that we are not our
thoughts. Our thoughts come from within us, but we do not need to identify ourselves
with what is generated from within us. Especially when those thought are born
of the Reactor.
Becoming the Witness is not easy. It can be quite a challenge,
as many of you who have experienced the overwhelm induced by working with Holosync®
can attest. Have you ever wondered why it can be so tough sometimes to face your
own thoughts and feelings? It's because on one level you feel you are identified
with these thoughts and feelings, and on another level you really don't want to
be! Some thoughts and feelings can be ugly, disturbing, and not seemingly reflective
of who we really are. So we use internal coping strategies to distance ourselves
from these thoughts. We think that by doing so we are dealing with them, when
in fact we are only leaving them to stagnate into something more difficult to
manage.
Through Witnessing these feelings as they arise you may
find it easier to accept them. Why would you want to accept them? So you can heal
and release them. Without acceptance of what you feel, you are not empowered to
release them. How can you release what you've convinced yourself isn't yours to
begin with? You can't release what you haven't accepted.
Through acceptance we can release. And as we release
we find that although the sensations are gone, we somehow remain intact. This
leaves us with the possibility that there's something more to us than just a bundle
of thoughts and feelings!
Here's an exercise you can try if you have the Quietude
soundtrack Centerpointe offers. Sit down in an upright, relaxed position. Listen
to Quietude with headphones on. Close your eyes, and slowly bring your attention
to your third-eye area. Or, if you prefer, focus your attention in the Heart Chakra
area (this can be especially effective if dealing with anger toward yourself or
others).
Give total attention to this area. Allow nothing else
to divert your attention from it. Watch it with your mind as if it is the most
important point in the universe.
When focusing in one of these two areas you may find
that your attention becomes almost magnetized there. It's as if these areas of
focus are drinking in your attention. As this happens, become in-tune with what
it feels like to view your thinking from this perspective. Thoughts will arise.
But instead of being reactionary to them, observe them without becoming reactionary.
Accept whatever arises without judgment no matter how boring, horrible, silly,
or disturbing it might be. There are no bad thoughts here, just thoughts to observe
with your Witnessing mindfulness. If you have a disturbing thought, acknowledge
it and accept it without identifying yourself with it. You are not the thought.
You are having the thought, but you are not the same as the thought itself. It
is passing through you like wind through trees. Become aware of your breathing.
The slow, steady inhale/exhale. On the inhale, say to yourself the word "accepting,"
and on the exhale, say the word "releasing." Apply these words to each
and every thought or feeling that comes to awareness, whether they seem good or
bad.
By developing our ability to be the Witness we are essentially
taking our awareness to a higher level of functioning. It takes practice, attention,
and mindful persistence to recondition the mind to function this way. But it takes
only a little effort to find the inner Witness and to begin to see the potential
benefits of becoming responsive rather than reactionary.
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